Lately I’ve read from different online conversations how so many men are unwillingly single, because women want pretty much perfect man and are therefore tuning down men that aren’t perfect, but still decent, nice guys. Men on the other hand would happily date almost any woman. I’d hate this to be true, because it sounds so sad, but recently I’ve started to wonder, if it actually is true…
To be fair, I’m basing these thoughts only on what I’ve seen about my brother’s love life, and it’s perfectly clear to me that I don’t know everything that happened between my brother and his girlfriends. But to me it seems like it’s almost always the girl who initiates the break up. I don’t know the exact reasons behind their break ups, but my brother have never said that it would have been his idea to break up.
This makes me sad, because I don’t think there is any good reason why he wouldn’t be able to find and keep a girlfriend if he wanted to. He’s laidback, out-going and social. I can’t say whether he’s exceptionally good-looking or not, but he definitely isn’t ugly and since he likes to do sport, he’s in good shape. Obviously he’s not perfect, but no one is. He’s quite messy and can be a bit short tempered sometimes. And if a girl is looking for a boyfriend who is “tall, dark and handsome”, my brother isn’t right for her since he’s definitely on the shorter side. But all in all, I think he would be a good catch.
One reason, why comments about women being too picky with men make me sad, is that I wouldn’t want to be one of these too picky women, but I’m afraid I might be. I have only been asked out once in my life, and I rejected the man. I still feel a bit guilty about it, but even the thought about going out with him made me anxous and nervous, and not in a good way. I had a very strong feeling that I didn’t want to go out with him, but I really couldn’t say why. He had never said or done anything offensive and I guess he was ok looking too. Not someone I would consider particularly handsome, but on the other hand, I’m not excatly a model either.
I don’t think that my expectations are really that high when it comes to men and dating, but since I’ve been alone for such a long time, I’m starting to wonder, that maybe they are, and I just don’t realise that. Maybe I should try to lower my expectations…?
Thank you for reading!